” For the Lord, the God of Israel, says: I hate divorce and marital separation and him
who covers his garment [his wife] with violence. Therefore keep a watch upon
your spirit [that it may be controlled by My Spirit], that you deal not
treacherously and faithlessly [with your marriage mate]”.
Malachi 2:16 (AMP)
God is saying he hates marital separation, and also domestic violence.
The bible states that a wife is a man’s garment, nobody puts away their garment. If we understand that this is the word of God, then we understand that God has a high standard for marriage and God will not lower his standard for us.
How to get out of a marriage is never a good mentality. We must think like this and stop putting divorce on the lower shelf. You know, when you have a shelf in your kitchen and they are usually things at the lower level, or middle level or maybe on top. Can you let divorce not be at a lower level where it can be reached quickly, especially in this generation and the one to come?
If you understand that divorce is something that God hates, he does not hate the divorced or divorcee, he hates the act of divorce, of putting your wife away, or putting your husband away. He hates that because it is not in his marital plan that we would get married, take a covenant, have children and then just decide to say “you know what, you go your way, I cannot live with you anymore”. It is not in his plan, take it or leave it, he does not want that.
One of the things that you must understand is that there is always the presence of sin, and it is the presence of sin that causes every divorce. Whether it is the sin of pride, the sin of adultery, the sin of selfishness, the list is on and on.
This is why we must look at each other and our union and those of us who work with couples must understand these facts that at the root of every problem, every irreconcilable difference is sin.
Divorce can be two-sided, and it is possible to be one-sided.
One side simply implies that the offended party has been treated unjustly. This is when we tag it one-sided. But, a lot of times, it can be two-sided and this is why we must approach it carefully. It cannot be the next thing or our next option when we have such issues.
If You don’t remember anything, remember that God has a high standard for the covenant of marriage, and God is not going to lower his standard to accommodate us, rather we are going to elevate our standard to accommodate him. So, it implies that we have to up our game.
When we sign up for marriage, in terms of what we are delivering and doing with our marriage, it also means as well that when we get married we must run to him, we must stay in him for help. Marriage will be done right with the help of God.
Finally, how to get out of a marriage is never God’s mentality.
Don’t put divorce at the lower shelf, where it can be reached quickly.